1. But it turned out that this "unlearning" was not as complete. When they severed the neural connection between rats cortex and amygdala, the rats became afraid of the rats again. This was because the fear was suppressed by the activity of the cortex, but was still present in the amygdala. In humans with unwanted fears, like batophobia, or fear of heights, the same thing happens. Repeated trips to the top of Empire State building seem to distinguish the fear, but it may come roaring back during the time of stress - when the cortex has other things than soothe an excitable amygdala. 

2. Enjoyment appears at the boundary between boredom and anxiety, when the challenges are just balanced with the person's capacity to act.

3. Aggressive power beats you up, soft power wins you over.

4. Free trait agreement.

5. One noteworthy study suggest negative emotions tend to leak those emotions later in unexpected ways. 

6. It can be hard for extroverts to understand how badly introverts need to recharge at the end of the day. 

7. It can be hard for introverts to understand just how hurtful their silence can be.

1. Language can hardly express the lover’s confident, rapturous state of mind

2. In love, everything about the beloved seems thrilling.

3. Yet all these characteristics: the narrowing of our world, the obsession, the experience of obstacles as aphrodisiac, the inability to resist, are also symptoms of a kind of slavery to the substance or person that causes them.

4. Were we in the grip of a magnificent obsession fueled by the many obstacles in its path? Were we soul mates, or were we being pulled forward by compulsions and desires that take over from reason in situations where love is concerned?

5. I do not like to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps, it is because envy – I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps, it is because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while the romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles on inspection. I hate to be love’s executioner – Stanford Psychiatrist, Irvin. D. Yacom

6. The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference. – Maggie Scarf

7. Addiction is defined by behavior, not by fantasy. With sexual behavior, as with alcoholism, addiction cant be measures by the amount of someone drinks or their number of sexual partners. Is everyone who get drunk an alcoholic? Certainly not.

8. Addicts with many different substances are able to control the effects of one by using another.

9. Overeating can diminish the pain of remorse

10. The rush of energy, the euphoria in the presence of a loved one, possessiveness and the heightened state of lovers when they are together is not exclusive to our species.
11. coup de foupre – love at first sight

12. A connection to another person which becomes the thrilling, delicious, sought after center of the world.

13. Being in love can feel like falling and soaring, it can make a person hot or cold, dizzy or calm.

14. Addiction is chronic or habitual use of any chemical substance to alter state of the body and mind for other than medically warranted purposes.

15. Psychological dependence is the subjective feeling that the user needs the drug to maintain a feeling of well being.

16. Physical dependence is characterized by tolerance (the need for increasingly larger doses in order to achieve the initial effect) and withdrawal symptoms when the user is abstinent.

17. Directly or indirectly, virtually all drugs of abuse affect a single pathway in the brain, the mesolimbic reward system, activated by dopamine.

18. Dopamine spike – an unnatural level of pleasure which, when it subsides, leaves pleasure levels lower than the normal.

19. When addicts find each other, and they seem to have some secret way of knowing who they are, they often bond over a shared life.

20. As he enters the obsessive trance, the metabolic responses are like rush through the body as endrogens speed up the body’s functioning. The heart pounds…

21. A love’s obsession – an oxymoron if there was one

22. My mind filled up wit yearning like a loc with open gates.

1. Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable/ Be honest and transparent anyway. - Mother Teresa

2. Five principle of authenticity

a. Know yourself

b. Transform your fear

c. Express yourself

d. Be bold

e. Celebrate who you are

3. Being bold is one of the most essential aspects of authenticity. Were not often trained or encouraged to be bold in life. Living our lives in bold and authentic way takes real courage and commitment. This does not mean that we are willing to act in the face of fear and able to say true to ourselves and whats important to us even when it gets difficult.

4. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

5. Having compassion with ourselves and embracing the dark parts of who we are is liberating.

1. Life is no straight and easy corridor along which we travel free and unhampered, but maze passages, through which we must seek our way, lost and confused, now and again checked in a blind alley. But always we have faith a door will open for us, not perhaps one that we ourselves would ever have thought of, but one that will ultimately prove good for us. - A.J. Cronin

2. When you stopped being afraid, you feel good!

3. The quicker you let go of the old cheese, the sooner you find the new cheese.

4. I am beginning to think there is more to this than I thought. I like the idea of letting go of old behavior instead of letting go of the relationship. Repeating the same behavior will just get you the same results.

5. As far as work goes, maybe instead of changing jobs, I should be changing the way I am doing the job. I'd probably have a better position if I did.