Because telling them would only complicate things
Telling them would only hurt me
I am so afraid to try again....
I am so afraid that someone will leave me in the grave again..
dead and helpless...
Monday, February 27, 2012
Friday, February 24, 2012
Excerpt #2
11. The worst assholes consistently do two things:
A. put themselves ahead of clients
B. put themselves ahead of their company and their colleagues
12. When you validate a person, what you are really doing is giving them power - like a battery charger
13. Other Smart People Tricks
A. Show them the love
B. Assume the best
C. Cut loose the real losers
D. Keep teams together
E. Protect Yourself from energy suckers
F. When to divide and conquer
14. Save your passion and creativity for those people who will benefit from it and who leave you feeling charged up rather than drained.
15. I let them hide behind my skirt because when you are the boss, part of your job is to protect your people when they screw up.
16. The better your boss and your organization, the less you need to shield people
A. put themselves ahead of clients
B. put themselves ahead of their company and their colleagues
12. When you validate a person, what you are really doing is giving them power - like a battery charger
13. Other Smart People Tricks
A. Show them the love
B. Assume the best
C. Cut loose the real losers
D. Keep teams together
E. Protect Yourself from energy suckers
F. When to divide and conquer
14. Save your passion and creativity for those people who will benefit from it and who leave you feeling charged up rather than drained.
15. I let them hide behind my skirt because when you are the boss, part of your job is to protect your people when they screw up.
16. The better your boss and your organization, the less you need to shield people
Friday, February 17, 2012
Excerpt #1
1. After you plant a seed in the ground, you don't dig it up every week to see how it is doing
2. Like salt in a sauce, too much overwhelms the dish too little is similarly distracting; but just the right amount allows the other flavors to dominate our experience.
3. Refusal to accept responsibility is also seen as a sign that nothing was learned or will be changed as a result of past setbacks and error.
4. Great bosses convince others they are in control when the shit hits the fan.
5. Recipe for an effective apology
A. No sugar coating
B. Take the blame fully.
C. Apologize fully
D. Take immediate control over what you can.
E. Explain what you have learned.
F. Communicate what you will do differently.
G. Get credit for improvements.
6. Tricks for taking charge
A. Talk more than others but not the whole time
B. Interrupt people occasionally and dont let then interrupt you much
C. Cross your arms when you talk
D. Use positive talks
E. try a little flash of anger every now and then
F. If you are not sure whether to sit or stand, stand up
G. Ask your people what they need to succeed and then try to give it to them
H. Tell people about your pet peeves and quirks.
I. Give away some power or status, but make sure everyone knows it was your choice
7. Fight as if you are right, listen as if you are wrong.
8. If you see something different, go ahead and disagree. I dont know all the answers.
9. Fight for what you believe, but gracefully accept defeat.
10. 11 Commandments for wise bosses
A. Have a strong opinions and weakly held beliefs
B. Do not treat others as it they are idiots
C. Listen attentively to your people, dont just pretend to hear what they say
D. Ask a lot of good questions
E. Ask others for help and gratefully accept their assistance
F. Do not hesitate to say "I dont know"
G. Forgive people when they fail, remember the lessons and teach them to everyone
H. Fight as if you are right, and listen as if you are wrong
I. Do not hold grudges after losing an argument. Instead, help the victors implement their ideas with all your might
J. Know your foibles and flaws, and work with people who correct and compensate for your weakness
K. Express gratitude to your people
2. Like salt in a sauce, too much overwhelms the dish too little is similarly distracting; but just the right amount allows the other flavors to dominate our experience.
3. Refusal to accept responsibility is also seen as a sign that nothing was learned or will be changed as a result of past setbacks and error.
4. Great bosses convince others they are in control when the shit hits the fan.
5. Recipe for an effective apology
A. No sugar coating
B. Take the blame fully.
C. Apologize fully
D. Take immediate control over what you can.
E. Explain what you have learned.
F. Communicate what you will do differently.
G. Get credit for improvements.
6. Tricks for taking charge
A. Talk more than others but not the whole time
B. Interrupt people occasionally and dont let then interrupt you much
C. Cross your arms when you talk
D. Use positive talks
E. try a little flash of anger every now and then
F. If you are not sure whether to sit or stand, stand up
G. Ask your people what they need to succeed and then try to give it to them
H. Tell people about your pet peeves and quirks.
I. Give away some power or status, but make sure everyone knows it was your choice
7. Fight as if you are right, listen as if you are wrong.
8. If you see something different, go ahead and disagree. I dont know all the answers.
9. Fight for what you believe, but gracefully accept defeat.
10. 11 Commandments for wise bosses
A. Have a strong opinions and weakly held beliefs
B. Do not treat others as it they are idiots
C. Listen attentively to your people, dont just pretend to hear what they say
D. Ask a lot of good questions
E. Ask others for help and gratefully accept their assistance
F. Do not hesitate to say "I dont know"
G. Forgive people when they fail, remember the lessons and teach them to everyone
H. Fight as if you are right, and listen as if you are wrong
I. Do not hold grudges after losing an argument. Instead, help the victors implement their ideas with all your might
J. Know your foibles and flaws, and work with people who correct and compensate for your weakness
K. Express gratitude to your people
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